2017: A real mean mom of a year!

I think this year, the universe decided that I needed to be shaken out of my complacency and that I needed a mean mom to do that. Because that is exactly what 2017 has been. A real mean mom! Actually 2017 was like a mamma giraffe, she knocked me down and then kicked me to stand up. Just when I thought I was okay, there was one more kick to knock me down.

Oh yes, I resented this year. At least while it was happening. But looking back I see that I am not the same person I was at the beginning of the year.

I started this year with this great determination that I would make everything work. And for a while it did. Then came the kicks in the forms of illness, and being let down by people I thought were my pillars, expenses piling up and not being able to cope with my work load.

While it is true that these put my year out of gear, I learnt that there is something in me that just won’t give up. And in spite of all the chaos of the year, I managed to write 20000 words of my book during the Nanowrimo challenge. I learnt that it didn’t matter if I finished the 50,000 words or not. I realised that I could write 7000 words a day if I wanted to.

I made a lot of friends in my social media groups and enjoyed the conversations I had with them. I read a lot of books and reviewed them and my opinion was sought out.

Somewhere along the year, I stopped feeling like a tongue tied school girl in awe of people she admires. I leant that I can talk to them as peers and I felt accepted. For someone who has always been on the fringe of groups, never really an insider, this meant a lot. A shout out to Rubina Ramesh and The Book Club, and Corinne Rodrigues and her Write Tribe and the Wrimo India group!

This year I learnt that you can’t assume that people will be there for you. There will be times when you are all alone and that is alright. I learnt that I am enough. I learnt that I have a very stubborn streak and no matter how many times I got kicked to the ground this year, I got right back up again, out of sheer perversity.

In fact the best part of the year was this last week, which I spent with both my daughters. We spent the time visiting family and otherwise just sitting and talking and cathcing up on each other’s lives. The icing on the cake was when my daughter said, “Thank you mamma, for always being there and for always doing what has to be done. For taking everything in your stride and still finding things to be happy about.”

I don’t think anything could top that!

I have written this post as part of the Friday Reflections, the theme being, “Looking Back on 2017”.

 

“Woof , Woof!” By Muffin. #1

SIP : Simple Involvement Plan (for dog lovers)

A couple of weeks ago, mamma had a rare afternoon free. But instead of playing with me, she sat scrolling on her phone. It didn’t really matter, because she was sitting on the window seat and I got to sprawl all over her feet.

Suddenly she gave a deep sigh. I raised my head to ask her what the matter was when she said, “I wish I could!”

“Could what?” I woofed.

“Help out,” she answered wistfully.

“Help whom?” I barked a small impatient bark. Sometimes mamma takes her own sweet time telling me things. I really wish she would hurry up because then perhaps we would get some time to play.

“Listen to this. My friend Aditi Nair sent it to me. You know her don’t you? You met her at that place where they take care of all the street dogs who have been hurt.

“You mean where we met Arya?”

“Yes,”

“So what did she send you that has upset you so much?”

“This.” Said mamma and read out the message

“We are in URGENT NEED OF FOOD for the rescued and sick  animals under the care of PAL.

Request you to click on this link https://goo.gl/J9SBYR and send us some food for the animals.

The animals are used to this diet and not giving them this food will hinder their recovery process. If you are unable to purchase and help out the animals, please help by sharing the link with your near and dear ones. The 2s & 4s at PAL will be very grateful for your kindness

Our monthly requirement –

* 8-10 kgs of Pedigree puppy dry food for 2 meals for the animals daily.

* 25 – 30 wet pouches of dog food every day for food and for medication. 

* 15 pouches of cat / kitten wet food every day.

* 30 kgs of dry cat food per month.

For any queries, please WhatsApp us on 9820380638. In case address is not showing up on the link please drop a message to us.

TIA

“So why can’t you help?”I asked mamma. I think my mom is super efficient. She can do anything she puts her mind to. As she says, “The word impossible is in the dictionary of fools!” So why couldn’t she help?

“Because right now, I already have you and I can’t afford to buy even one day’s worth of meals for the animals. I just don’t have the money.”

And she sat with that sad look again on her face. I can’t bear to see her like this, so I jumped up to lick her face.

She laughed and said, “You know what, I wish I could adopt more dogs.”

“But you can’t…”. I began…

“No, I can’t. But I wish I could do something” Both mamma and I lapsed into silence as we contemplated the problem.

Suddenly I remembered a question someone had put to mamma some time back. I think he was her tax consultant. He had been trying to get her to keep aside something every month in something called SIP, and she had told him that she couldn’t afford the amount he had quoted. So then he asked her “How much can you afford?”

I didn’t realise that I had asked the question aloud till mom answered, “About a quarter of the requirements for one dog for a month!”

“Then that is what you need to start with. And if you can find three more of your friends, to do the same, you can feed a whole dog instead just of a quarter of him!” By now I was yipping excitedly. Oh wasn’t I a genius!

Mamma looked at me for a moment and then nodded. ‘’Hmm, maybe we could do that. Virtual adoption of a part of a puppy, or even a whole one if you can. And Aditi can send us pics of our adopted babies and update us once they get actually adopted. Then we can virtually adopt another puppy.  I must message her and see what she thinks about my idea!”

“Your idea? Woman, hello? Can we give credit where it is due?” I growled.

“Okay okay! It is all your idea. So let me call her up and tell her that this is what Muffin thinks we should do.”

So all you humans who are reading this, what do you think? Would you like to part adopt a dog? Would you like to make a big difference with a little commitment?

If you would, please say so in the comments section or drop us a line at Sunita@sunitasaldhana.com  or send us a message on Whatsapp on  9820380638 and we will get back to you.

Lots of woofs and licks,

Muffin

P.S. This post was written in response to the prompt “If I could make a small difference today, I would ———–”  #writebravely #writetribeblogsforacause

Stop that doodling! Pay attention!

Last month I was taking part in the Nanowrimo challenge. I was determined to finish writing all 50000 words of my novel in one month. I was all geared up and sat at my desk to write . I wrote for about an hour and then I hit a blank. I had been writing about two or three hours daily for one week and I was mentally tired. But I had my daily goal of 2000 words to complete and the words were playing hide and seek with me. Suddenly I found myself doodling at the side of the note book.

Almost immediately all the voices of my teachers and my parents seemed to yell at me, “Stop that doodling. You have a deadline! Concentrate on your work!”  And I almost stopped. Luckily it was an almost and I went ahead to give my page a nice border. Then I went a step further and coloured it. And believe it or not, I felt so refreshed after that. Within no time I was able to finish the chapter I was working on.

Today luckily, cognitive psychologists consider doodling as something beneficial. They say that doodling increases concentration and can also actually calm you down when you are stressed.

And it is

fun !

When was the last time you gave yourself permission to have fun? Do it now. Come join us at a fun filled session on Sunday, 9th December, at 11 am IST. Here are the details.

 

 

Heartprints

 

The moment I saw you, I was lost.

My heart just went Awwww!

I held you for the first time

And you nuzzled into me

And licked my face

As if you knew you had come home to love

 

I had shut off my heart

Too afraid to be hurt

But you tumbled right into it

With your unabashed adoration

Your antics made me laugh

I could watch you all day long

As you dashed crazily around

Chasing a wooden bangle that

I had dangled on a string for you to play with.

You wheedled your way into my bed

And claimed my pillow too

Soon you took over the entire bed

As you grew

You’re no longer a puppy

But no one seems to have told you so

You career around at breakneck speed

Tugging at cushions and shoes.

Your eyes follow me everywhere

And you need no excuse to lean in to me

You know just what my heart wants

And you sing that song to me.

 

 

You are the reason I still live

    You are the reason I wake up each day

You are the reason I get out of the house

And make new friends along the way.

Someone up there sent you

To save me from myself

And when I look at you today

My heart still goes ‘Awwww!”

 

 

I am taking part in The Write Tribe Problogger October 2017 Blogging Challenge and I hope you enjoy reading my posts here. If you do, please leave a comment. It motivates me to write more.